Saturday, November 16, 2013

Thoughts on The Forbidden Woman

I have been meaning to write about a couple of topics for quite some time now (family worship and devoting yourself to “endless genealogies…”). However, mothering, cooking, hospitality, schooling, bow hunting, housekeeping, fall cattle work, etc… has taken priority over sitting down at the computer and typing!  But there has been another topic heavy on my heart for the past few weeks and it was compounded this week when I found out about a man whose teaching and ministry we highly respect admitted recently to having an emotionally inappropriate relationship with someone who was not his wife.  It is interesting because my weekly Bible study/prayer partner and I were just discussing some of the practical applications of guarding against Satan and the flesh in this area of our marriages. (On a side note, if you don’t have an accountability partner who you meet regularly with to strengthen, encourage, pray, confess sin, and search the scriptures together to discover how to conform your life to Christ, then you are missing out on a HUGE blessing of being part of the family of God. And if you “do” and it is a gossip session focused on worldly conversations or complaining about your lot in life… again, you are missing out.)

Be warned now: this is not going to be politically correct! The Biblical worldview that I hope to portray is completely antithetical to what our society values, teaches, and promotes. In fact, a large portion of “churches” in the western culture will not necessarily stand with the Holy Writ on this issue.  However, I pray that each word will be completely founded in the scriptures.

Proverbs 14:1 says “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” How do we guard our marriages from infidelity? (I am not saying or insinuating that in all cases of marital unfaithfulness the wife is to blame…) But is there something we can do as wives to prevent Satan’s and the flesh’s temptations to our husbands in this area? How can we be wise women and build up our houses?  Proverbs has much to say about the guises of the adulteress and forbidden woman (Prov. 2:16-19; Prov. 5; Prov. 6:20-35; Prov. 7; Prov. 9:13-18; Prov. 23:26-28; Prov. 30:20… just to name a few). I study the book of Proverbs several times a year; and I have been pondering the ways of the forbidden woman the past few weeks, thinking about how she pursues, woos, tempts, and makes herself noticeable and desirable to a man.  These women are out there. I know some of them and I bet you do too; AND they have contact with our husbands. It is important that we recognize our “enemy”, even if the enemy is in theory only (for today…).

It is so easy after you are married (especially after you’ve been married for a long time) to let our guard down, to stop trying to impress our husbands, to stop “pursuing” them. In some respects this is a good thing, because they can see us at our worst and still love us. But that doesn’t mean that we give up trying to have any excitement in our relationship. Before marriage, didn’t we care about what we looked like, what we said to him, how we spoke to him, and weren’t we more forgiving? When he was around us, didn’t we try to make the experience pleasant? But after we get married, it is far too easy to get too comfortable, selfish, and complacent. Proverbs warns about the tendencies and their effects on a husband that a wife is prone to. Proverbs 19:13b: A wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain; Prov. 12:4b but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones; Prov. 21:9/ Prov. 25:24 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife; Prov. 27:15-16 A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.  There you have it! We wives can easily be nagging, quarrelsome, shaming, and really just not fun to be around! And what are we doing to our beloved husbands? Water board treatment, rotting his bones, and making him prefer solitude. Ouch!  Now the tendency is to read these passages and think, “That’s not me.” But think a little harder about that. When our husband gets home from a hard day at work, does he walk into a house that is a refuge? Is it a pleasant environment? Does he feel welcomed, missed, and appreciated? Does he open the door to a wife who has prepared herself in anticipation of his arrival? Or do you meet him with an attitude of frustration because the kids have been crazy, a to-do list a mile long, a complaining spirit because he didn’t do _________ or fix ________, and do you drill him about all the errands he was supposed to get done and didn’t? That is nagging, quarrelling, dripping, shaming, and rotting his body and soul. That is tearing down your house with your own hands… and I’m sure to some extent, we have all been guilty of it.

Contrast this with our opponent: She is vying for his attention, she listens to what he has to say, she doesn’t nag him, she does her hair and makeup, she is not wearing a stained t-shirt and baggy sweat pants, she makes him feel important and respected. Do you see the difference here? This woman may be a secretary, associate, or co-worker of some type  who is paid to be an asset at work. It is pretty easy to see where the man would rather spend his time. So knowing that Satan is roaming around, seeking whom he may devour,  knowing that men are especially tempted by the lust of the eyes, what can we do to protect our men and our marriages?

The first thing to do is to pray: for wisdom, energy, correct biblical attitudes about our female roles, and strength as wives to fulfill our positions as our husband’s helpmeet (Gen. 2:18), and secondly for our husbands to avoid temptations in this area. A couple of years ago, I went through the scriptures describing qualifications of elders and deacons and made a prayer list of those attributes to pray for my husband. Not because I desire him to be an elder, but because I desire him to be a man of God who is characterized by those fruits. Below is my prayer list based upon the listed scriptures, unfortunately it didn’t copy/paste in the cute little text boxes that my original document was…
What to pray for my Husband
Titus 1
He would be above reproach
Our children would be saved
Our children would not be rebellious
He would not be greedy for gain
Not be arrogant or quick-tempered
Not be a drunkard or violent
Not be greedy for gain
He would be….
                        A lover of good
He would hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught
He would be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and be able to rebuke those who contradict it
Titus 2
He would be sober minded
He would be dignified
He would be sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness
He would be a model of good works
He would show integrity, dignity, and sound speech in his teaching
In everything he would adorn the doctrine of God our Savior
1 Timothy 3
He would be respectable
He would be able to teach
He would be gentle
He would not be quarrelsome
He would not be a lover of money
He would manage his household well, with dignity
He would keep his children submissive
He would not be double tongued
He would hold the mystery of faith with a clear conscience
That I would be a wife that is dignified, not a slanderer. That I would be faithful in all things so that I will be his helper
Ephesians 6

That he would not provoke our children to anger but would bring them up in the DISCIPLINE and INSTRUCTION of the Lord

1 Peter 3/Ephesians 5

That I would be submissive, respectful, and that my conduct would be pure in GOD’s eyes
That I would adorn myself with a gentle and quiet spirit
That  he would live with me in an understanding way, showing honor to me as the weaker vessel
That his prayers would not be hindered
It probably would be a good idea to pray that he wouldn’t be tempted by the lust of the eyes or flesh.  So the first defense we as wives need to be participating in is the power of prayer.

The next thing we need to address is our attitudes.  This is especially against every bone in our flesh… handed straight down to us from the curse (Gen. 3:16 “…Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you”) and reiterated to us through the feminist movement in our society. We have been told and believed that our roles in the home are oppressive, degrading, and not valuable.  We laugh at that famous textbook from the 50’s that encouraged wives to clean up the house, prepare a nice supper, make sure the kids are cleaned up and quiet, and to dress themselves up in preparation for the husband to come home.  Biblically, the wife is the husband’s helper. Would it not make sense that having a haven to come home to after work is a help to him? Does a good, nutritious meal help him physically and spiritually? Especially if he knows that it has been prepared with his likes/dislikes in mind? Wouldn’t you have loved doing such a thing during your engagement? So why not during the marriage?

Pointing out all of his shortfalls is not building up your house (either in gossiping to your friends or venting on your husband). Yes, we all have broken things in our houses and lists that the husband needs to take care of. But there is a better way than nagging him to convey your frustrations.  Don’t throw the list at him when he first walks through the door. Don’t text or call him several times a day piling up to do lists on his plate. Find a time to have a pleasant conversation with him and gently bring up issues that you may be having. Ask him how you can be a better help to him. Pray about your attitude, ask the Spirit to make you more selfless (Phil. 2:3-16). Pray through 1 Corinthians 13 and meditate on what love really is.  Will we have days where the house and kids are a mess and supper is ruined? Yes, we will. But that should be the exception and not the norm.  What else can you do to make your husband look forward to coming home and seeing you?

Lastly, I want to address our physical appearance. Do you dress up and put on some makeup when you grocery shop? If you dress up for your grocer, shouldn’t you all-the-more want to dress up for your husband? That doesn’t mean that you put on your Sunday best every day of the week, but there are more attractive clothes than your husband’s worn out t-shirt and baggy sweat pants, (even if you are pregnant or don’t look like a 20 year old). No matter what your body type, put a little thought into how you look. It is very easy to go through the tasks of a housewife/mom each day and never look into a mirror. But it really doesn’t take too long to fix up your hair and makeup and look nice for your husband. It never tells us what the Proverbs 31 woman’s figure was like, but it did say her clothing was fine linen and purple, and also strength and dignity. Is that what your wardrobe says about you? Again, yes, there will be times when sweat pants is all we are able to muster up, but that should be the exception. Remind yourself of all the thought the “forbidden woman” is putting into her appearance if you need some more motivation…  (Please note that I am not promoting immodest dressing, but that which portrays godliness and dignity. Does your clothing draw attention to your face or your body? “Hot” is for the bedroom of a husband and wife in a covenant relationship… *blush*).
Moving on… I am not going to comment much on this, but read 1 Corinthians 7:1-5. Meditate on it, pray about it, and seek the Spirit’s guidance.

I do not have any of this stuff perfected, but the Spirit has stirred my spirit on this whole concept of safeguarding my marriage. There are many areas in a marriage to be selfish and unloving, to seek worldly treasures rather than heavenly treasures. Our goal as Christians is to become more Christlike and becoming less selfish as wives and mothers is one way to display the gospel in our homes.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Random projects crossed off the to-do list! ...and how to save time making tortillas!

It has been a busy time around our house, but it is wonderful to see what we have accomplished in this time as well. School is fully in swing (but it has been for several months now),  and we are still trying to tweak our studies to align more with what God’s Word says about discipleship (but that is a whole topic within itself).  In the midst of the every day, I have been able to complete a few projects that have been on my “to do” list for quite awhile and wanted to share them!

WHAT TO DO WITH AN OLD SPARE WINDOW:  When we redid the house out here, I immediately had some projects in mind for old windows. One project was to make a chalkboard (or two). I chose the windows that were the appropriate size for my space and painted them with a fresh coat of paint. I wasn’t too concerned about being perfect, because I wanted the rustic look.  I then primed (right on the glass) them with a magnetic primer. My hope was to get a magnetic chalkboard… however, I shouldn’t have wasted my $$ on that part because even after 3 coats of the primer, the ability for a magnetic to stick to it is sub-par.  Anyway, I then painted 3 coats of chalkboard paint onto the glass and that was done! My hubby lovingly hung them for me and I’m very pleased with the outcome. So, for the cost of the chalkboard paint I have two great chalkboards!
WHAT TO DO WITH AN OLD BOARD:  I’ve been wanting to do this for quite some time. I love having scripture posted all around my house… it is a great way for us all to memorize it as well as great reminders of God’s truth each time we read it.  I found an appropriate board lying around in our barn. I painted it with some leftover paint (again, I wanted a rustic look). Then I used chalk to draw my words on the board. When I had the right size and shape, I painted right over the chalk with some other left over paint. I love how it turned out. This picture was taken before we got it hung on the wall (about 4 inches higher than where it was sitting for the photo op.  I have another board I am doing for my girls’ room, but I wanted to use pink paint for the letters and didn’t have any. So that continues to be on my to do list!

WHAT TO DO WITH AN OLD DECK: We have an old redwood deck on the east side of our house that really is an eye sore. It seemed wasteful to just junk it and start over. Sure, the boards were shabby and a bit splintery… but they weren’t warped at all.  I found a product called Restore at Lowes and it promised to coat and fill in gaps up to ¼ inch wide while providing a non slip surface. It is supposed to be good for 12 years. We decided to give it a shot. It was a bit pricey ($1.35/sq. foot) but that was much cheaper than buying a new deck.  I first powerwashed off the deck, let it dry, swept it, and then decided it was time to apply the product.  The stuff is much thicker than paint and you are supposed to use their roller to apply 2 coats to the surface. I brushed the edges and used a brush to fill in the bigger gaps and holes. Then I rolled the rest on. We are very pleased with how it turned out! So far, it seems really durable and has stood up to dog claws and a bunch of kids. We will see what the future brings!
The next project is to replace the windows and doors!

HOW TO SAVE TIME MAKING TORTILLAS: I have a tip for anyone who makes tortillas! I love homemade tortillas. They are cheap to make and taste great.  The problem is that I spend a LOT of time rolling each one out with my antique roller that keeps losing one of its handles. Plus, when I’m going to the trouble of making tortillas, I make a bunch of them while I’m at it. Really, I spend an hour or more just ROLLING them out!  Then I got to thinking… why can’t I use my kitchen aid pasta maker attachment on my mixer to flatten them out? Sure, they may be “oval” in their shape, but it isn’t like I get perfect circles when I do it manually anyway. So I gave it a shot and what takes me more than an hour to do manually, I was able to do in 15 minutes!  I ran them through the “roller” at the widest setting (1) the first time, then squished them at the 5 setting the second time. I then cooked them as I normally do in my cast iron skillet and the job was soon done! A quadruple batch of tortillas!! Woo Hoo!! So if you happen to have the pasta attachment for your kitchen aid… put it to use for rolling out tortillas too!

LABELS, LABELS, LABELS: I’ve always imagined a pantry that was organized and labeled. Since we have been buying more things in bulk (accommodating our growing family) it now has become a necessity to repackage, store, organize, and label!  I bought some vinyl chalkboard rolls from Hobby Lobby and my good friend was kind enough to put her “Cricut” to use and cut some fancy labels for me. I used a chalk “marker” to write on the labels, which proved to be neater and longer lasting than regular chalk. I love how everything is coming together… even though it isn’t complete yet. What is your favorite method for labeling and organizing???

Sorry, this isn't the most thought provoking blog entry... just a bunch or random thoughts! But I did want to share some of these easy, low cost projects that have been keeping me busy!

Monday, August 12, 2013

Encouraged, Inspired, and Gearing up for the Homeschool Year!!!

Our campsite at family camp...
 We just returned from the "Renewing the Family" camp late last night and I can't say enough great things about it! This was our first year attending and I'm sure it will now become an annual event. It was held at Maranatha Bible Camp in Maxwell, NE and that facility is just amazing. The activities were endless, the weather was beautiful, and the people were so encouraging! It was a breath of fresh air spiritually, emotionally... (not really physically, I think it will take a while to recover from family camp)!

Lets face it, when you have a parcel of kids and embrace intense home discipleship as a means of bringing them up in the training and instruction of the Lord, you are in the minority. When the days get hard, there isn't always another like-minded family around to pray with you and encourage you. It is always such a joy to meet others who have the same convictions (especially those who are further along and have survived the process)! That being said, we do have a great support in our current community, but not everybody is that fortunate. So meeting a lot of other people who have decided to walk this route through life is such a blessing. We realize that we are not as isolated as it seems at face value!

But now that family camp has come and gone, it is time to channel that excitement and energy into getting our school year jump started. Last year, after much prayer about the focus of our time, the Lord impressed 2 Peter 1:5-9 on our hearts and it became our theme. It was such a blessing to have such a great verse to constantly meditate on and strive toward. This year the Lord has given us another theme... it really has gotten a bit comical as to how often this same idea has repeatedly come up! Matthew 6:33 says: "Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."  For us, there are so many great things that we try to fit in each week that we end up rushing through stuff, eliminating others, or doing it all and barely surviving.  By the end of the week, we are all exhausted and burnt out! The Lord has been impressing upon me that "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom".  Fearing Him means obedience and also seeking Him first. If we are faithful to do that, then He is faithful to do His part. If I am teaching my kids to love the Lord their God with all their hearts, souls, minds, and strength... then I am not failing even if the 6th page of the logic workbook didn't get completed! As we have put this into practice the past several weeks, I am in awe (but not surprised) at how much we are able to accomplish without the stress. God is faithful to His word!
Kezi doing Bible reading at camp.

So this morning, after several late nights, my "flesh" was quite ready to wake the kiddos up early and get a flying start on their studies... rushing through devotions so we could get on to "school". But the Spirit led me in a different manner. I let the kids have a good night's sleep and we had a great family worship time (minus Daddy who had to be to work).  Last year we focused on the Westminster Shorter Catechism, and while we will continually be working and re-working through that book, our focus for the next couple of months is a little book called "The Child's Book on Repentance" by Thomas H. Gallandet (1834). We've been having great discussion times surrounding each chapter culminating with each child making a goal of how they will apply the discussed concept to their life that day. The kids are also working through a precept workbook on James and memorizing James at the same time.  We took time to re-discuss Psalm 110 (which was discussed at camp) and then we sang it. (Psalm singing has been a real treat for us after buying a psalter a year ago, but that is a whole different topic). Again, we didn't rush through this worship time. It was a blessing and the rest of the day has been blessed as a result.  Needless to say, it wasn't 8 a.m. when the kids were done with worship and ready to start daily Bible reading and the rest of their studies.... it is the middle of the afternoon and we are still plugging away on math, book reports, english, reading, etc... The kids are still joyous, diligent, and applying character concepts from our lesson this morning. Was the day successful? You bet it was... after all: The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom!
Kaser enjoying the beach. Happy birthday, he turned 1!

 It is amazing that after spending 5 days with a group of like minded families (of which 99.999% of them also homeschool), I only had ONE curriculum discussion! And that mom used the same thing that we are switching to! What a wonderful, sovereign God we serve who divinely crossed our paths! It was a blessing to get tips/tricks from her and get to share some of my own insights as well. Again, what a blessing family camp was.  I'm posting a few of our pictures... enjoy!!

Evening chapel was too much when Kyli skipped her nap!

 There was a cardboard and duct tape boat building contest that we did with another family. Who knew how fun that was going to be. Let me tell you, they built a GREAT boat and it floated for a LONG time, even with two 11 year olds in it!! In fact, it didn't even sink. But FYI... duct tape doesn't really like to stick to cardboard!

 Happy birthday, Kenan!!! He had a birthday at camp too!!

We all enjoyed the sweet shop, that was a fun little hangout (albeit loud)!
Kaser eating Daddy's shake.

Kaleb jumping on the blob.

Kyli having fun swimming!

Kezi on the rocket.

Monday, July 22, 2013

Quiet Time.... When there is no quiet and there is no time?????

I have wrestled about writing this post for several days now; prayed about it, thought about it, mulled over in my mind what I would say and how I would say it. Even now, I’m not anticipating that the words will come easy. And why has writing this post caused me such turmoil? Because I want to make sure that my motives are pure. It would be very easy to write this while standing on my soapbox because the very subject matter is very near and dear to my heart. However, I wanted to make sure that I was motivated by a love for my sisters in Christ before I wrote a word. I want this post to be an encouragement for you to grow in Christ.  So, with that in mind…..

I don’t spend a lot of time doing the “social networking” thing. (Obviously I would have a lot more blog posts if I did…). But there are 2 main blogs that I follow. One of them only posts a couple of times a month, the other posts several times a week, but it takes a minimal amount of time to scan through the information and get on with my day. Anyway, one of the bloggers posted an entry about having a quiet time during this busy, child-rearing time of our lives. By the end of the post, the author had validated about every excuse possible to let busy moms “off the hook” from spending meaningful, intentional time with the Lord and not even feel guilty about it. My take home message was that if I said a quick prayer here and there throughout my day, that was OK because eventually there will be a season where a busy mom would have more time to sit down with the Lord. I read the first several comments on the post and ALL of them were full of thankfulness for the release of the “guilt” they felt for not getting in the quality time with God on a regular basis.  At that point, I thought to myself, “Am I the only one who disagrees with this post???”  So I read it to my husband to get his opinion. He said, “Well, it sounds good, but it isn’t biblical.”  So, all that being said, the blogger did post another entry with some corrections to the previous post.  I’m not posting a link to the blog, because my intention is not to criticize the author at all. But the subject matter in question is the springboard to this subject which I am passionate about.

A couple more disclaimers before I get started. I am not some well-known blogger. Most people that read my blog are friends and family whom I know personally and would consider friends.  In Proverbs 27:6 we are told: Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse and the kisses of an enemy.  We all know that only a true friend is going to speak the truth even if it is going to hurt. The key is to “speak the truth in love” (Eph. 4:15). That being said, I hope these words will be helpful in carving out time in your day with the Lord. And if you are struggling in this area, remember: “a bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not quench” (Matt. 12:20). Although scripture will not “tickle our ears” (2 Tim. 4:3) on this issue, it will provide a light to the path we should be striving towards.  None of us are perfect and even the most devoted disciple will have hills and valleys in his/her walk, but the general picture of our lives should be a whole hearted devotion to the Lord, loving Him with our WHOLE heart, soul, mind, and strength. That kind of devotion requires spending intimate time with Him.

So how do you make a quiet time when there is NO QUIET and there is NO TIME? Let me first say that we have all been given the same 24 hours in each day. People who have a very intimate relationship with the Lord do not have one second more in their day than people who squeeze in an occasional prayer before a meal.  So, there IS time, the better question is “how are you spending your time?” A relationship with the Lord will not come naturally. In fact, until the Spirit causes us to be born again (John 3) our hearts will not be bent towards Him at all.  (We may think that we are seeking him by being a “good” person and being “religious”… but outward “motions” in the absence of  inner change are futile. We must be born again).  But even after we are born again and have received a new heart (Ez. 36:26), many factors work against us conforming to the image of Christ: our sin nature, Satan, our culture, etc…  Trying to cultivate intimacy with Him without being purposeful is as fruitless as trying to run a marathon without intentionally making time to train. It isn’t going to happen. You will not be walking down the road one day and suddenly trip and fall into a deep, personal, growing relationship with your creator.  Hudson Taylor once said (in effect) that Satan will always find something to distract you with, even if it is just adjusting the window blind.  Oh how many times I have sat down to be with the Lord and immediately I’m distracted by the dust I see on the furniture around me! Hudson Taylor’s quote pops in my head quite often and I give myself permission to get to the dusting later!

So first of all, you need to realize that you do have time. We make time for what is important to us. You take time to eat, drink, and sleep so how much more important than these is time with the Lord? Most of us won’t have to cut back on those basic items in order to find time with God (although some may have to). The majority in our culture are filling their days with many things that although may be “good” things (or maybe not), they aren’t the “best” things. We commonly substitute “good” things in place of God’s best for our lives. Take some time to write out (or at least think about) what your days are being filled with and start cutting out those things that aren’t necessary. Some obvious things that come to mind are: TV/movies, internet/email, too many outside activities that keep you away from home several times/week, scrapbooking, too much exercise, video games, facebook, puzzles/games/smart phone apps, talking on the phone,  texting, etc…  Not that any of these things in and of themselves are inherently bad, but if you are finding time for them and not finding time for God, something needs to be cut back.  Even serving and ministry areas need to be evaluated in light of your own personal time with God. Just look at the example of Mary and Martha. Martha was busy serving and was irritated at her sister because Mary chose to sit at our Lord’s feet. Mary was commended by Jesus for choosing the better option. If we aren’t getting our own time at the feet of the Lord, we are serving in vain.  If you are a wife and a mom, your first area of service is to your husband and children (Titus 2:3-5). We are to bring up our children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Eph. 6:4). How can we do that if we do not have a grasp on the discipline and instruction of the Lord ourselves? You can not give what you do not have. You can not teach your child about being a disciple if you aren’t discipled by the Lord yourself. The great commission (Matthew 28:18) is to go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. If you are a parent, this begins at home with teaching your children. Again, if you do not have a grasp on the teachings of Christ and the scriptures, how can you teach your children? No, you do not need a seminary degree to learn the scriptures. You just need the Holy Spirit to guide you through them, teaching you bit by bit each day (Isa. 28:10 – For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, there a little). God equips you to carry out His commands. Matt. 6:33 says: Seek ye first the kingdom of God and HIS righteousness, and ALL THESE THINGS will be added unto you. Don’t feel that the task is impossible. God will guide you and equip you. But you need to SEEK HIM FIRST.

I personally believe that your quiet time needs to happen when you first wake up. We are to give the Lord the first fruits of our labors/money and I think that you have a “first fruits” of your time as well. If you have early-rising itty-bitties, you may need to get up 30 minutes earlier. If a child wakes up with you, (you know this will certainly happen)… have a game plan. They can snuggle on your lap and you can pray out loud with them. Read your Bible reading to them. Let them be a part of your confession and thanksgiving time. Another option would be to have a “prayer closet” which is at a minimal distance from your bed enabling you not to disturb any sleepers as you tippy toe to your meeting with the Lord.  Sometimes when I get interrupted in the morning, I continue my study during nap time, play time, (or the older children’s quiet time).  Sometimes my study has to continue after the kids have gone to bed. But, my goal is to have 30-60 minutes before anyone else is awake. If it doesn’t happen, then I go to “plan B”, and if that doesn’t happen then “plan C” is enacted. But NOT having a quiet time is an immoveable pillar (even if it means I lose sleep or a meal).  If you keep quiet time as “optional”, you will opt-out of it more often than not. That is how Satan works. (And there will be a “good excuse” for not having it every time…) Remember, that those days in which we are too busy for God are the days when we most need to get quiet before Him.

There will always be an excuse as to why you can’t have a good, consistent quiet time during a given season of life. Don’t look for an excuse as to why it won’t work for you. Instead, look for a way to make it work. Pray that God would show you how to have time with Him. Ask Him to give you wisdom in overcoming the obstacles (children???) and interruptions.  Ask Him to give you a game plan (A, B, and C) so that you can get intimate time with Him.  He will be faithful in answering your prayer (James 1:5-8) Ask your husband to pray about it too. Better yet, ask him to lead you in this area. Ask him to evaluate your schedule with you to see what needs to be cut out or rearranged. You will soon find that your time with your creator is the most blessed part of your day!